I met a child somewhat three years ago, in wedding ceremony of my relative. He was a twelve years old student of class 7th, confident, intelligent but naughty and spoiled to some extent. I started talking to him, as i found him an interesting child. After getting information about his schooling, i asked some questions about his home environment, parents' attitude and ethics of his own.
While he was answering one of my questions, unconsciously told me that he often scolds his housekeepers in a very bad manner. When i asked about the reason to do this, he smiled and said, " Because my mum does this, and so i".
I saw him for a moment and then answered,"She might have a reason to scold them".
He remained satisfied, " I don't think so. She always does this to bring out her anger. Anger which is being produced due to any other reason but, not due to housekeepers".
I could not answered the twelve years old child for few minutes then i again asked, " Didn't you learn in your school that we should be very polite and kind towards our housekeepers?"
" Yes, i did." this time i smiled. " But this is of no worth for me. Why should i perform such a thing that is written in books but never applied by a single person in front of me?" i was not expecting that answer from him.
I tried for last time and said, " you are right Hassan but, there is something very important about this."
He came closer to me and asked with innocence," What?"
" We must do such thing which is good according to ethics, although never applied by a single person in front of us,because this is the point where we are called different from people around us, but still linked to the entire humanity".
He smiled beautifully and went to his mother after shaking hands with me.
I had a sad feeling for few moments.
The place where our kids can learn is not the place where they go for few hours called "School", but the place where they spend rest of the day and called "Home". A teacher is responsible to teach a student, but a mother is responsible for filling that teaching in her child's heart.
A Woman holds the civilization in her hands, she can change the world by changing and transforming her child, so he could do what he is born to?
I like the caption and photograph of your post :)
ReplyDeleteYour post reminded me of the Iqbal's reflection where he was referring to the Muslim Solidarity;
"... Who is the principal depository of religion in a community? It is the woman."
It is woman who actually is the maker of community and provides that Education which actually the community needs as a whole which she starts by educating her own child.
you are so right komal. Infact Iqbal also said in his essay " Qaumi Zindagi" that woman in the form of a mother is responsible to develop the love of the Nation to her child........
ReplyDelete"maan ki god bachey ki pehli darsgah hoti hey"
ReplyDeleteyou have raised a very good point. I've noticed this problem in our society that now mothers, specially the young mothers are not like the mothers we are blessed with.
They just watch TV all the time and keep several char women and servants.They dont have enough time to give their children, so whatever they learn in school will never be applicable till they learn same at home...
thank u for your appreciable comment.
ReplyDeleteParents should care about their children since they may serve them the way they were taught.
ReplyDeleteParents should hold and reserve their actions and tongue infront of youngones as most of the time these things are misunderstood by children.
It can turn out to be a disaster if the child has a strong imaginative powers.
As far as teaching is concern....mothers are not required to sit with her children and make them recite what she want them to learn. She had the hardest part that she has to do herself what ever she want her children to do.
hmm...unfortunately...few people have very low profile of ethics and that is why they cant make most of their youngones.
Motherhood is a responsibility and we should pray to ALLAH that if HE is granting us the honor to bear heaven beneath our feet...HE also should give us the vision and clearity of thoughts...Ameen.
Nice shairing Urooj....Thanks...hmm.
thanks to you too for a nice comment.
ReplyDeleteThank you for this reminder. And the challenge for us mothers in america to search out the treasures of the past in our nation and polish them before we lose all of them.
ReplyDeletethanks for your comment. I really like it.
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