Thursday, April 28, 2011

Chemistry of a Relationship

A relationship is just like a chemical compound which is being formed between two different elements or persons in such a way that its result would ultimately be unique.

The simplest and most amazing example is of that water. Water is just a molecule that contains only two elements; hydrogen and oxygen in the ratio of 2:1 respectively. The most simplest chemical compound on earth but at the same way the most complex one because Scientists have spent hundred of years just to understand its chemistry, likewise a relationship is simpler at the surface level but as one goes deep down, he finds that a relationship would never be simpler in any way.

Despite of its simpler formula and structure, water has an amazing ability that Nature has kept in it; it can resist to heat up to a great extent and boils on 100°C and freezes between 0 to 4°C, that's why our body has water in it and that resist to the change of weather. A relationship if it is formed on the same rules water has followed, would be able to resist to a great extent the external pressure, miseries and pains and will able to keep itself firm and steady.

In water, there is a covalent bonding between hydrogen and oxygen that bonds them and that bonding is basically the mutual sharing of electrons, but as oxygen is the strong electronegative element and it pulls the shared pair of electron more towards itself, as a result there has been created the partial positive charge on hydrogen and partial negative on oxygen. A relationship is always formed when there is a mutual sharing of gives and gains, happiness and sorrows, trust and respect, and off course freedom and space; but then sometimes out of those two persons, one can be more strong to get his rights as compare to the other in that relationship and that creates a partial positive at one end and partial negative charge at the other end.

And there comes the true reason of the bonding; the survival of hydrogen in the chemical bond. Hydrogen creates a virtual bonding to the neighboring oxygen in order to hold its position in the compound; thus each oxygen holds a virtual bond with the two neighboring oxygens and the bonding is called hydrogen bonding. This bond is apparently weaker than the other covalent bonding but it has such the power that water can resist to the surrounding environment to keep its form and shape to a great extent.

When the person with partial positive charge will have to survive, he/she would ultimately have to do something urgent and that's the only way to keep the relationship alive and in its original form and structure. One has to create a hydrogen bonding and that bonding is none other than Love, the weaker one apparently but it makes the relationship so resistive that it can survive in every storm of the life, every grief, every pain whether the surrounding environment would be too much high, cold or hot; Love has the ability to tie up all beads of a relationship in one thread, because Love is the only feeling that is unconditional, unreasonable and unforgettable. It does not allow, even to the one with partial negative charge to break the bond and deform the molecule.

So, if I want to have a good relationship with You, I first have to have a covalent bonding with the mutual sharing of respect, happiness, griefs, trust, and freedom, and then I have to make a hydrogen bond of the unconditional Love with You, because without this hydrogen bonding this relationship would be so fragile that would break with a single jerk. And with the hydrogen bonding of Love this relationship would be unbreakable for sure.


  1. Nice observation Urooj! Yeah i'll surely agree that H2O is really really strange compound... best beverage! :D

    Well.. Chemistry part is done. Waiting for Physics now :p

  2. wow, this is what I called a true and genuine writer and its have mentioned everything in such a way that i one way think that may be i am travelling in the remembered me my school days,yeah.

    good topic Urooj and keep the spirit high i can see a great and famous (to be)writer in you.please dont waste too much time on relationship they best works when you are doing something else.anyways, i am inspired.

  3. rIZ, thank you for reading and liking the post. And please don't wait for the Physics part because I can not write well on Physics, its not my field actually.

  4. Sharmeela, thank you for reading and liking the post.

  5. You taught us Biology of Love a little while ago and now its Chemistry! It is all good if you cant teach us Physics. That we will learn on our own by and by ( hopefully ). Just joking! It would have been a real delight if you had taught us that too... All in all, a very interesting, and thought-provoking read! And by the way, where are you lost?

  6. Urooj
    Chemistry and relationship, two very difficult things to understand but you have made both so simple. I must say that you are developing into a great writer day by day. Chemistry is such a charismatic thing for me that I can't resist myself to add that the most striking properties of water such as higher melting and boiling points, higher surface tension, higher specific heat and the higher tendency to dissolve the other compounds etc are due to the nature of covalent bond, specially the hydrogen bonding (you’ve mentioned the love bond).These all properties have made life possible on earth. It can't be denied that love is the hydrogen bond of life without which none of us would have survived same as its importance in water.
    I wonder if H2 and O2 are given the discretionary rights to choose the relations (free of all forces compelling them to form a bond and later the Hydrogen bond) how would they react? Keep writing about such nice relations between life and science.

  7. No doubt this is an exceptional post and I fully agree with Sharmeela about the merits of the post and the writer.

    The relationship of hydrogen and oxygen are brilliantly discussed and brings home a lesson that nothing of significant importance comes into shape unless a relationship is built and fostered.

    God has created everything in nature in pairs( as we understand from Quran) meaning simply that nature shows us the significance of a relationship.

    Urooj your writing on the chemistry of water is written like flow of a river that runs upstream with thunder and downstream with speed and gush that produces inspiring effects vividly of melodious aesthetics.

  8. Sadia, thank you for reading, liking and appreciating me. I write what I am able to, if someday I felt that I am able to write about physics then will do it.

    And where I had lost, I have already told you little earlier.

  9. Peerless, thank you for reading and liking. And yes, these unique properties along with hydrogen bonding in water has made water capable to continue the life and scientists whenever search life on other planets, they first search for water on that planet.

    As far as the choices of hydrogen and oxygen are concerned, I personally think that if they would have got choice even then they would had made this relationship because despite of their opposite natures, they love each other.

  10. Sir Akhtar, thank you for reading and liking. Your liking something really means that the writing has something important and I am glad that you liked it.

    However, your comment is as beautiful as the post itself is:)

  11. Perfection, perception and layers of meaning within your completely beautiful post, Urooj!

    I am reminded how much I've missed your abilities. This will be fun to discuss with my husband - especially since he's a scientist.

    Perhaps you and Dar Sahib could somehow put your elegant, rare, unique pieces on LOVE together?

    The metaphor of water itself with it's apparent flow and misleading "weakness" also remind me of Love in that it has such strength at times such as wearing down of stone and during a storm.

    Also, your piece, ironically, reminds me of description I heard recently - that Love is Fierce - in the sense of not giving up - so again, the strength - the best manner of passion, infinitiy and creativity all come to mind.

    thanx for such a gift.

  12. Connie, thank you for reading and liking the post.

    Yes, discuss it with your husband. Perhaps he could give some further insights on this topic.

    I will talk to Sir Akhtar about your advice.

    And thanks for sharing your views on Love here. Its really delightful.

  13. Muhammad Bilal, thank you for reading and liking the post.

  14. hmm....its really a very nice post Urooj...

    I can see that you are very good in relating everything to human life which means that you observe very well...

    Though I am very bad in Chemistry and half of the stuff I didn't even get...but someday we will sit together and talk about this post of yours...over a cup of tea...

    hmm...meanwhile keep writing...

  15. Thinking, thank you for reading and commenting.

    I am glad that you like the post and yes, we can talk about the post whenever you want to....